So this post is long overdue. I mentioned I was going to write about safe sex practices, intended for our younger or perhaps relatively uninformed or inexperienced readers that may or may not be taking their first step into.....the joy ride hahaha! I say there's no harm in banging it out if you do it the right way, because you are not really a grown man until you have sex and make that physical connection with another person.
Obviously I'm not the most informed, I'm sure there are many (older :P) bloggers that know way more than me. But I will just share some of my personal precautions.
Oh before that, if you want to know the complete info, these links are helpful:
http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_and_gay_men_safe_sex
http://www.managingdesire.org/GaySexWithoutRegret.html
OK, personally I have 3 golden rules that I always repeat to myself (like a mantra) before going to saunas, massages or any date:
1. No condom = no fuck
2. A dick that has been inside the ass doesn't go into the mouth (even if a condom was used)
3. Don't let him cum inside my mouth
Hahaha I know I know, you may think these rules take the fun and spontaneity out of sex... because sometimes when you're so into it, you tend to let go of all your inhibitions... But I'm damn firm about it. Prior to sex, I let the guy know that he is not allowed to cum inside my mouth, or my face for that matter. It's always neck down for me LOL, simply because it's safer. You may have small open wounds in your mouth from vigorous brushing, or bleeding gums. If he doesn't comply, then well...... I'm sure he wouldn't risk it considering his most prized possession is in the clutches of my jaws. ;)
Rule no.2 is really a hygiene issue for me. That is why oral sex always precedes anal sex. Call me old fashioned, and sticking to routine, but I just don't fancy sucking on his dick when it has been poking way up my anus. The routine is pretty standard, and all guys that I've been with seem to follow the pattern without me asking... it's something like touching - kissing - clothes off - touching - stroking - sucking - licking - oral - maybe more sucking/licking/touching/groping etc - then once it reaches the anal stage, it usually ends with orgasm. From my experiences, tops usually like to cum outside on you and make a mess, which is actually safer compared to cumming inside the ass, because condoms may not be 100% reliable. Make sure that if he cums on any part of your body, that there are no wounds / broken skin that could lead to exposure.
Rule no. 1 is the MOST IMPORTANT rule of ALL TIME. Seriously, there's absolutely no compromise. I'm proud to say that I've NEVER been fucked bare backed. There was this 1 time I almost fell into the trap of a smooth talking and very insistent hunk, that kept saying how much he liked my body and wanted to fuck me, and promised he wouldn't cum inside me. He was hot, but that only made me want to play safe EVEN MORE, because god knows how many asses that cock has seen. So, in the end he finally gave up and grabbed a condom.
To all bottoms out there, trust me when I say you need to hold your ground, because when you two are in a naked pre-sex situation, a horny Top will eventually give in to your request in the end, because let's face it... he is a horny pervert and will not let go of that opportunity to fuck you right there and then, when you have presented yourself to him like a delicious and sumptuous platter.
And dear readers, if you are a Top, please don't be a jerk and just put on a freaking condom, because you are protecting yourself too! Honestly if you get used to the habit of using condoms right from the start, then you won't find it unpleasurable. I actually think condoms are sexy LOL.
So these are my 3 golden rules. Did I forget to mention anything important? Feel free to mention it here!! Thanks and play safe guys!!
XOXO
please arr... by putting a smiley face with a tongue out doesnt really help much cos(youre so young so mostly everyone will be older than you, niama!) i still feel like slapping you! hahahahahah... i used to go without number 1. 2 and 3 are always there for me.. but 3 is an exception to my bfs because.. hehe.. dot dot dot...
ReplyDeletehahahaha slap me <3 <3 that's why I love you :P
DeleteAnd yeah, I think I would be willing to omit rule no.3 for that special someone..... provided that he has fully gained my trust, and we've both did the testing... and been together for a long time..... I don't foresee that happening for me so soon though :/
DEJAVUUUU~~ haha
ReplyDeletehaha you heard it first! ;)
Delete<3
Ya, I think number 2 is kind of gross. I mean, in your ass then in your mouth.
ReplyDeleteYucks.
haha glad I'm not the only one who thinks that way. I thought I was being a hygiene freak... coz sometimes when a guy pulls out, you can actually see some brown stuff... which totally puts me off, even though it's from my own body... :X
DeleteErrmmm, just something im curious about la, cos i have no experience at all and may sound so dump, if you u guys are having oral sex, will it be together with condom? i think no right? hmmmm..if no i think there will still be risk as there are sure pre-cum inside your mouth, right?
ReplyDeleteshark, the rate of you having AIDS via oral sex is negligible unless you have ulcers.
DeleteBy uk rule, if my medic coworkers who have aids tripped, heads on the mouth (hence bleeding), fainted, and needs CPR. By law, i am required to do it unless i have ulcers or wounds in my mouth -_-
haha thanks Vincent for the professional answer :P
DeleteAnd yes, with any kind of sex activity there is always a risk. Pre-cum is much less risky than cum, but with oral... for me it has to be done without the condom... simply because I want to taste the meat, and not the rubber haha :P I know some people use flavoured condoms, but nah it won't feel as good for both the giver and receiver.
Just make sure your mouth is healthy and in good condition before you give a guy the gift of your lips and tongue ;)
that is why some helmets are flavoured!! :)
Deletei think what shark says has some sense . U will never know how or when precum will flow out into the mouth , or whether the other guy has bleeding gums or not (unless u take him to a doctor/dentist ). personally jboy , i have been fopllowing ur blog silently for a long time , but i think u can be a tuls la , not sampai tahap the real tuls in uk(i heard a myth he ada sex dgn 100 men ) , but still ada kelas la
Deletehahahaha Ooi ermm it's not a competition for me, I have sex when I want to, and with who I want to... and if people want to brand me as a slut then so be it! :P
DeleteTo be honest I've already lost count of how many guys I've been with..... which is not a very good sign actually.... but haha definitely no where near 100, coz I've only been really sexually active since last year :P
Good and informative post. You should post this up in Facebook and spread it all around the world via friends. It may seem common sense but nevertheless, it's very crucial piece of reminder to gay men.
ReplyDeletehaha thanks Calvin, but I don't have many facebook friends on my J-boy account :P
DeleteI just hope when guys around the world Google for sex, sauna, massages in kl and end up on my blog (which happens a lot LOL), I hope that they will read this too!! :)