...MAN!!
Wow can I get any more obviously desperate. It's not about the sex, I mean sex is awesome but it's not JUST about sex. I'm craving for something more. A relationship. I just need somebody to love (quoting a Justin Bieber song made me slightly nauseous lol). As complicated and as contradicting as it may sound to what I said about myself previously, I think I'm ready to experience.
This is the effect of watching Glee. The show makes being in a relationship so effortless and heart warming. I know real life ain't nothing like TV. But watching the on screen couples sends a reminder to me everyday that I'm missing out on so much. It's like my life is stagnant because I'm too afraid or hesitant to take the steps.
I hope it isn't too late for me to start. I'm about to turn 21 and have never really been anyone's boyfriend officially. So it's unfamiliar territory.
So my question is.... how or where do I start?
How the hell do I approach someone or how do I let people know that I'm approachable?
Am I supposed to market myself lol?
How/where do you meet single guys?
Or a even better question, how would you know if the guy you're interested in is one of us?
Hahaha you are probably shaking your head or laughing out loud now.
Come on, I'm taking baby steps here. At least I'm taking the initiative to ask for help and advice rite? :P
Let's launch campaign 'Help J-boy Get Hitched by 2011' LOL!!!!!
Firstly, that sole Bieber song is nice. cuz Poreotics is in the MTV.
ReplyDelete2nd, if it helps, I'm 25 and still single, but already (finally) dating.
3rd, on to the questions:
1. you simply do. start looking.
2. if your gaydar is boomz like mine...well, i went through Fridae, Gayromeo and Grindr, mostly cuz it's easier than actually saying 'hi'. I hear bars etc are an option, but it's not my scene.
3. yes. likely that people would want to know what you like bout yourself ie marketing :D
4. see 2. Frangi & MP lo. or ask Takashi do 1 round intro in studio89... :P
5. see 4. boomz. my gaydar.
Now now, remember not to rush into things.. Maybe it's a once in a while wash over feeling that fades when the sun sets or something.. But trust your heart anyway, doesn't matter if you get hurt. Coz you'd emerge stronger from them.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, even I've been wondering along the same lines. BUT, I have no idea at all. Coz my first bf approached me. I didn't have to do much. I keep having mixed feelings about being in a relationship right now :S. But good luck with yours! =]
ReplyDeletehey hey! same case! almost 21 and have never been in a relationship. I'm worried that if I let it continue for too long eventually I will be too scared to venture into a relationship.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, I do ask those questions as well, ALL the time. Especially the one on "how do you know he is one of us"!
Ouch, and I am into quarter century old...
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looks ain't a problem for u, so be confident and u will find a guy soon.
ReplyDeleteI fully understand how you feel but desperate will not help...it may worsen the situation...get more friends is always a better option.
ReplyDelete@Deicidal: Thanks for answering my questions, and so systematically I might add! ;)
ReplyDeleteThe thing about online sites is that I find it so boring, because everyone seems to be looking for fun only, and they always start with the same old pick up lines. The lack of effort is such a turn off!
And I don't go to clubs or saunas because it's not my style? Intimidating also..
@bro: Yeah I know what u mean, so i'll give this feeling some time to settle and see if i still want a relationship. There's that saying... it's better to love and lost than never to have loved at all right? haha so damn corny right :P
@A: Thank you! I was having mixed feelings for the longest time too. Recently I just decided, what the heck, might as well go for it and live life. I may end up screwing things up badly, but at least I'm doing something rite :)
@ryan: u should launch a campaign too then! Let's first find someone to date!! Any bloggers interested in us? ;)
ReplyDelete@CX: You are not old!! I think people can be too young to get into relationships (immature and puppy love and all), but never too old..
Who knows, the 'one' could be someone associated with your workplace. Besides, I find older guys way more attractive, that's why I don't date guys who are younger than me haha! :)
@Mr.D: haha what made u think I have no problems with the way I look? :P
I actually have image and body issues.. part of the reason why I'm shy at approaching guys :(
@Skyhawk: Don't worry, this time I don't feel desperate, just determined! It's not like i'm deluded like during the Eric period. And you are right, making friends is a good way to start! :)
Glee!!!!Glee!!!!Glee!!!!!
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