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Saturday, April 12, 2014

Unexpected Cruising Experience!!

Still can't believe it happened haha! Sometimes you go to a "Hot Spot" with the intention to cruise and get lucky, but those of you who have tried it would know that 90% of the time nothing really happens and you end up wasting time strolling or waiting somewhere.

The actual "Cruising" phenomenon probably died down since the invention of mobile apps, which makes hookups so much easier. Yet it lacks a certain thrill of those good old not-sure-what-you're-gonna-get hunts I've heard about. These days a lot of the so called cruising are premeditated online through certain channels. So when you go to a specific place at a specific time, you are bound to "run into" the person that you contacted before hand. That's not real cruising.

I admit to random trips before, but that was not what I had in mind today. Had a 3pm appointment in Bukit Bintang, but I reached earlier to have lunch and was walking around to kill time. I entered Sg. Wang Plaza since I've not been there in ages. This place is compact and has many shops, eventually I ended up near Metrojaya and was resting at the porch overlooking things happening on the ground floor. Suddenly a guy stood next to me and was looking down to. Not sure how long he had been tailing me. He started talking, I think he said something like (in Mandarin) 'This place is so quiet these days...'. I was stunned, totally didn't expect a random person would talk to me.... but I kind of figured out what his intentions were. There was some lame small talk for a bit (why are you here / did you come alone / where do you stay / you come here often), I was still processing in my mind if I should go along with it, or run away because he might be dangerous haha coz he was carrying a gym bag and I didn't know what was inside, like whether he would take out a knife and rob me when we went somewhere quiet, does he have an accomplice etc. So many thoughts crossed my mind!!

Let's talk looks. He was taller than me (+ point), wearing specs (- point), decent chest & biceps where you can tell he gyms but not hunky yet (+ point), had lots of stubby facial hair which is sexy (+ point), his arms and later I found out his junk was super hairy (+ point for me haha) as in like hair was growing more than halfway down his shaft!!, and he was tanned like a Singaporean (+ point). He didn't have screaming good looks, actually kind of geeky but was decent enough for me. He said he was 35-something (wasn't really listening) but he looked at most 28-ish. To be completely honest, if he wasn't as appealing, I would have bolted away LOL. I was excited that I was actually getting cruised, so eventually when he said 'Let's take a walk', I knew that was the cue for the next phase.

He seemed to know the place. We went 2 floors up, went to a quiet corner and through a door, then another... We reached some scary, abandoned looking lift area and he wanted to go even deeper, my instinct told me otherwise, I said 'No, I don't want to go there'. He replied 'Ok, let's go back outside'.

I then suggested the toilet, which is safer & kind of like where I'm used to operate LOL, 'OK let's go'. Went to the urinal, he whipped it out and it was already hard, I grabbed it and wanted to pull him into the stalls, only to find that one had no door, the other was locked, and the third looked ok, until we went in and the door couldn't close properly (FML), all of this happened while his cock was still out! So risky hahaha... luckily no one came in :P

'Let's find somewhere else'. At this point it was like the Amazing Race already, I discovered how much hard work public sex is. 'I know this other place, it's part of the stairs but it's a quiet spot at a dead end, the place is near the top but a little hot'. I was like 'Fine, whatever, as long as it's safe.'. 'Yes it is'. So he led me up another floor, made a turn somewhere and out of the blue there was this random door that opened to the staircase. It looked deserted. We went up 1 or 2 floors I think, turned somewhere else and went up more stairs... I think we passed by a parking lot? I saw parking pillars if not mistaken. But we were still indoors, I just didn't know where. In the corner, I looked on the wall and recognized the yellow-brown splashing stains that painted MUCH of the wall. CUM, confirm CUM stains. I know because I accidentally made a mess in my room once and the mark can still be seen today LOL. I actually asked 'Are these stains yours?' hahahahahahaha don't ask me what I was thinking, to which he replied 'No, many people come (CUM) here too'. So funny!!

Don't wanna ruin your dinner by telling you what we did.... not much.... I wanted to blow him off but he stopped me halfway, said something like 'I like you so much, I don't want it to end like that, no point if we're not making love'. I was like.......... okkkkkk, this is a hookup, I don't intend to be your wife. And frankly I have feelings for someone else. So there was a lot of cuddling and cute touching going on.... I went along with it, I don't know why..... Eventually I didn't feel safe, kept feeling like someone would walk by and hearing noises. Wanted to leave, then he just whipped his junk out again and started whacking off facing the WALL. Poor wall, I think some of those stains must be his haha, although he said 'I've not been here in months'. To be polite, I offered to lend a hand, he obliged.... He then forcefully grabbed me there and started stroking.... I didn't really had a choice so he came all over the place, I followed. This time it was the floor, not the wall. I suspect tiles would be easier to clean off. Very sorry, cleaning lady!

Could tell he was getting a little too attached, I freaked a little but played along, again. Went to the loo, cleaned up.... This guy has like Dettol shower gel and mouthrinse in his gym bag. Nope, he didn't offer any to me. He wanted to hang out, "Do you wanna go watch a movie', 'Do you have a bf?', I said I had an appointment. 'Is he a guy? Are you meeting your bf?'. 'No.'.

You know that feeling, right after sex, sometimes you feel guilty or regretful... Well, I felf kind of shitty for playing with someone I didn't really like/love, so I decided to plot my escape. I knew he was going to ask for my number before we parted ways...... He wanted to walk me back to Pavilion. Near the bridge that links Sg. Wang to Lot 10, he needed to pee, I said 'I'll wait for you outside'. The second he went in, I bolted like a race horse, it's quite hilarious thinking about it now, but when it happened I was like running for my life haha! People must think I've gone nuts. I ran across the bridge into Isetan, got down the escalators to the Hutong food court, sneaked out the other exit and basically speed walked my way into Fahrenheit 88. All of that while looking back constantly to see if he was chasing after me. Crazy right!?!?! Was sweating like crazy when I finally stopped. I went into one of the toilet stalls on the 2nd floor of Fahrenheit, and guess what? I heard people having sex in the next cubicle!! It was so obvious, I'm surprised they picked such a busy toilet. I know BB is the Golden Triangle of Gayness, but wow today I experienced first hand how happening it truly is!!

Not sure if I made the right choice to run. He's actually a decent guy. It's just that when someone gets overly interested or clingy, it scares me and I flee. That's a terrible defense mechanism. Just couldn't imagine myself being with him.... like flashes of us hanging out and being a couple went through my mind, and I just thought I can't. Maybe I should have exchanged numbers. Get to know each other better first. At least someone is showing interest in me. But I was worried he was going to be stalk-ish. And can a relationship really start from a dirty cruising experience? I don't think so.

I still feel somewhat dirty from today. But nevertheless, a good experience to add into my journey of growing up.

XOXOX

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Finally a Change

Generally, I try to be optimistic, in all aspects of life, but the truth is 2014 didn't exactly kick off in a good manner for me. From falling ill repeatedly (nothing serious, but minor annoying ailments that kept me out of sorts) to just life being stagnant, I felt lost for the first time in life.

For the past 20+ years, there was always a simple, clear goal. When you're a kid, the goal is to be a kid & have fun and be a filial son. When you're in school, the goal is to study hard and get good grades, so that you can move into a prestigious higher institution and make your parents proud. When you're a young adult, the goal is to think about what kind of future you want to have and not screw up even though there are endless temptations surrounding you. When you're in Uni, the goal is to enjoy the freedom of adulthood and graduate with a decent GPA so that you can get a job. When you have a job, the goal is to not lose it hahaha. Then what? I guess for most people it would be about building that career and building a family. It's a long road ahead, but with no clear cut path. Everybody starts to diverge and it can be quite panicky when you don't really know what to do.

The thing is......... building a family isn't really an option for us, or at least for me. And the whole career thing...... I admit to having a mini crisis early this year, especially when you see your friends and peers moving on to big companies or achieving great things.... You just start to question if you are even in the right field, is this what you really want to do as a profession.... Should I switch jobs? Am I just bored? Do I wanna stay in this line forever? Should I switch to a different field altogether? But what about my qualifications? Does it limit me to the kind of jobs I can get? Should I consider postgraduate courses? What should I study then? MBA? Masters in my field? A Bachelor's degree in a different field? Where would I study? Australia? Singapore? Local? Or maybe I should try applying for jobs abroad, for a change of scenery? What about cost of living? Being away from family? Is it worth it? Should I just be content with my current job and stop thinking too much? Am I getting paid enough, is the increment sufficient? Am I learning enough on this job or just wasting my time?

These were just some of the questions I had in my head for weeks. I sometimes wonder if I did the right course in Uni. I do like what I do on most days, but some days I just feel like doing something completely different.

So the whole career dilemma is one thing, on the other hand my personal life was also hitting crisis mode. 2013 was Year of Joe, I wasted so much time on him, but at least it kept me occupied (in a sick, twisted way)... I'm glad I came to my senses before the year ended... but that only let me to an uncertainty for 2014. You might think uncertainty is good, it opens up many possibilities... but to me, it felt like nothing was happening. Sure I could still get sex any time via casual hookups, but I was yearning for something more... And there was just no one in sight. I started to convince myself that I may well be spending the rest of my life alone & single. My personality and character is designed for a lifetime of loneliness.

No one was interested in me romantically, or maybe I was just setting the bar too high and being unrealistic. No one was really catching my eye... Nor did I feel like I would appeal to anyone..... Self esteem was kind of dipping low low low haha....

Things started to turn around lately... career wise I feel much more settled, my mind that is. I've decided to stay at my current job for at least till the end of the year, just to persevere and show that I'm not a fickle minded quitter. It isn't bad to be honest, I do have nice colleagues and a decent pay, so I realized I shouldn't complain or compare so much.

Love life wise.... well it's still a long way to go, but at least I'm getting some interaction with a number of guys haha... There are a couple of guys I've been getting to know better on Jack'd, and then there are a couple of seriously sexy guys that I exchange pictures and dirty thoughts with (LOL), and there is also this 1 guy at the gym........... Hahahaha I know I know, you guys are going to warn me from going down that road AGAIN... Just that this cute, slight hunky guy has been exchanging eye contact with me, we have had some 'moments'. I don't really know how to interpret it yet, but experience tells me that guys these appealing to me are usually straight, and that I'm totally imagining things.... So I'm reminding myself every day not to fantasize too much and stay realistic. But at the same time, be open to possibilities :P

OK I should get some sleep.... On a random note, the whole water rationing thing is just so bloody inconvenient and annoying! Fuck this shit.... OK, sorry that was crude.  

XOXO

Saturday, March 29, 2014

Objectify Men

Have you seen J-Lo's latest music video?

Haha don't say I didn't warn you, it's a TERRIBLE song. Really. Honestly she has done so much better stuff.

'I Luh Ya Papi' does sound a bit like I love you puppy, which is a whole other level of ridiculousness haha... But just watch the damn video and you'll know why I'm blogging about it ;)


My personal favourite moment is at 1:30. BULGE! :3

Nothing wrong in objectifying men for a change, right?

Friday, February 28, 2014

Hot Guy Lures You In, Then Leaves You Hanging

The title says it all.

I hate people like that. Like dude, if you're gonna initiate a conversation with me and get me all excited, then don't leave me hanging there for absolutely no reason like an idiot.

It doesn't help that this guy is from America, and he's Latino. And FUCKING hot. Like the kind you see on TV LOL. He says he got transferred here for work, and after sending me his private pictures I can assume the pictures are genuinely him. He's probably way out of my league, but he initiated a conversation with me, and showed interest in meeting. I'm already being super nice and friendly.

But I just can't stand people who lure you in, and then play hot and cold. He takes over a day to reply a single message, and the responses are like short and inconclusive. But he says he likes me, it's not like he's not interested. I know it's supposed to be casual, but heck don't leave me high and dry you son of a bitch. Makes me wonder if you're seeing like 100 other guys or just way too busy with whatever "work" you do.

I admit it is your physical package that got my attention, and now that you have it, I feel like a desperate, clingy slut. You're so mysterious and reserved, I feel like there's something totally not right about this. And yet I still wanna give it a shot because my dick gets hard the moment I think about you LOL.

I'm like looking at my phone every so often just to see if you've replied. That's just desperado ultimato hahaha. Arghhhh why can't I just fall for decent gay guys hahahaha XD

XOXO
Where's my cupid?

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Man Hungry!!

You know you're man hungry when you get turned on by just about anyone with a rod between his legs! It's either that, or guys around me seem to be more attractive than usual hahaha!

This is just absurd..... not sure what's wrong with me, but lately I seem to be extra lustful... it's like a bee surrounded by a honey buffet kinda thing, everywhere I turn it's just yummy chest and arms galore and I just want to drop my pants and hop on to the next stick.........

I can't even put it in the right words to describe what's going on with me haha... maybe it's hormonal or environmental :S

The gym is where all the honey gathers haha! Guys that I didn't really notice before suddenly seem so much sexier....... Like today, this guy who I'm pretty sure is gay but not my type...... I noticed his body has gotten a lot buffer, and it just so happens I walked into the locker room when he stripped completely naked haha... Today is a weekend, so not many people working out, so I guess he thought it would be alright to strip naked quickly before covering up in towel..... So I caught a quick glimpse of his junk, and he saw me and got so self conscious haha.... I totally enjoyed that moment :P

And then there's this other guy, who's tall and kinda young and cool looking, I kind of felt like he was staring at me the other day..... it was quite cute, we first caught each other's eyes in the locker room, then we both went to pee at the same time. I went to the treadmills, he and his friend then went on to the treadmill next to mine..... I kind of felt in the corner of my eye that he was corner-eyeing me too haha, but you guys will probably say it's all in my head, and this time I'm totally with you... I probably imagined it haha..... But later when I was working out at the weight machines, he stood quite close to me in between his sets when he was resting, so I'm not sure if that means anything ;)

OK I think when you're horny you get overly excited way too easily and start to imagine and fantasize about all kinds of shit..........

I don't even know why I'm writing this hahaha..... just to say I'm horny LOL!!!!! Pardon my vulgarity.... it's seasonal, probably :P

XOXO
Get me a man please

Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentine's

Happy V-day & C.G.M. to all you annoying lovebirds out there haha ;)

Anyone knows anyone who's gonna throw Mandarin oranges into the lake? Is that still a thing? Is it supposed to be banana for guys? Is there like a gay code / version? Maybe throwing eggplants into the lake..... but the skin is so dark I would have to write my number using liquid paper hahaha :P

OK that was random.................... I'm not that despo, don't worry haha.. ha...... ha............

To all the single peeps out there, don't worry you're not alone.... To look on the bright side, to us, this day is just like any other day. It's just being surrounded by mushy shit and heart themed stuff all over the place as a constant reminder that we have no reason to do anything special today. Yeah, we will survive hahaha..

On another note, I've been noticing so many hot guys at the gym lately... muscle-y and young, drooling hot bods... some even behave and dress a little gay or have like an ear ring, which really messes up my gaydar, because they appear kind of gay, but then I remind myself of my history and lessons learned... If a guy looks too good to be true (one of us, a.k.a. gay), then he probably is (straight). True story.


Here's to yet another solo Valentine's,
XOXO
The sulking bitter gourd :P

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Sauna Day

Didn't think I could stay away that long haha... konon-nya want to change my ways, though I don't see the harm in the occasional visit (adhering to the Golden safety rules of course!) considering my dating life is dry as the Sahara...

Haven't been since the raids happened last November, so you can say I'm rusty. Thank goodness my mojo magically returned the moment I stepped into the zone. Not sure if I should be happy or sad to say it felt comforting to be back.... just to be in the presence of like minded people, not to mention the crowd today was HOT! You feel at ease, and naturally slutty ;)

The one major thing I noticed that has changed since my first visits bout 2 years ago.... younger boys are showing up, which basically means I'm getting old :O hahaha... Nice to see those young slim, clueless chaps wandering around like Bambi while I stroll & pose like a seasoned pro :P

I'm not into the young, twinky boys so my landscape becomes kind of reduced. The ones I like, the older, hunkier ones, become the guys that get all the attention and are chased around like bees to honey.... Competition is pretty strong these days, if you see a guy you like and hesitate to make a move, next thing you know some slutty brave horny soul will beat you to it and off they go into a private room.... Mehhhhh

That was what happened today! The crowd was damn fine, seriously I don't remember the guys being like that LOL.... it really depends on your luck, some days it's like striking the jackpot, and sometimes it gets pretty shitty depressing.

The funny thing today is that I had my eye on 2 guys, I haven't even decided on which one to go for.. The cute-hot slimmer one (who was kinda like me) was making some eye contact and staying close to me, while the other hunkier hottie with curly Korean hairstyle (not really Korean) was just moving around scanning the place... Before I could make a move, 2 random guys started exhibiting in the maze, kissing & sucking openly, attracting an audience around them. Rare to see hot guys with full hard ons just putting on a show for everyone...  I was watching nearby, then the hunky Korean hair guy suddenly walked in and joined them with a full hard on. Damn his chest was yummy! The slimmer guy was also watching nearby... Not long after, the show dispersed and Korean hair guy moved deeper into the dark area, obviously there was a bunch of guys tailing him, including Slimmer guy. I quickly followed behind to see how things develop, but it didn't take long for Korean hair guy and Slimmer guy to catch each others' eye, they were holding hands and walking into the private room.... still a bunch of guys were following behind until they shut the door LOL.... And I was like damnnnnn!!! I should have made a move, or boldly ask if they wanted a 3rd wheel LOL!

Not long after, Korean hair guy came out with Slimmer guy, they went out to get condom and lube, before heading back in. There were some very loud noises emitting from the room, it turned me ON so badly haha! Later I saw Korean hair guy leaving, but Slimmer guy was still hanging around in the maze... not sure if they both got the ending they wanted haha... Seriously they are both so good looking and so my type, it was like watching live porn :P

As for me, I was glad that I still got decent attention, obviously not as much as those two, but I would consider it a win considering the quality of the crowd :)

I think I'm at a place where I feel good enough about myself to not need to frequent these places regularly... this was just a quick fix. I used to get so attached to saunas, but now I'm glad I don't feel the urge to come back so soon..

I'm definitely searching for decent dates, and lately Jack'd hasn't been too bad! It's rare to have decent conversations on apps these days, but I just made a new hot friend today. The only catch is, he's a pure bottom haha!! At least that means we can just chat and be friends :P

2014 looks better already,
XOXO