HK Sauna Review.... Part 2 - ABC Sauna

This is incredibly overdue! To be honest, I thought everyone would have forgotten my promise to blog about my Hong Kong sauna experiences in Sept last year... I wasn't in the mood when I came back, because of the situation with Joe, then by the time I was finally over him I got lazy haha :P

Special shout out to Tucker K who reminded me I had unfinished business. As long as 1 person out there wants to read it, then I will write it ;)

The details are fuzzy, I'm looking over the itinerary and photos in my laptop, and also some notes I wrote in a tiny note book on budget and spending... I did not document most of the sauna stuff, so I will try my hardest to recall bits and pieces...

OK so the first day I arrived in Hong Kong, it was bloody hot and stuffy, I took a bus from the airport to Mongkok, then dragged my luggage a few streets away to the hotel. There were lots of stairs and I remember sweating a lot haha... After checking in, I went to Victoria Peak, did the whole tram ride and stuff, it was so cooling up there! The views of the harbour from atop as night falls was just spectacular.. For those of you familiar with HK geography, I then walked from the tram station all the way to the Central harbour (Island side), took the Star ferry across to Tsim Sha Tsui (mainland Kowloon side), explored around and took in the views of the skyscrapers on the Island side of the harbour.

Took this shot just before it got too dark @ Victoria Peak

View of Island side of harbour

The paragraph before was to emphasize that I was already sweaty, tired and slightly dehydrated... It was probably 8-9pm, I somehow thought it was a good idea to check in at a sauna haha... Oh before that, should mention that prior to the trip I did a lot of research on the gay scene, because options are aplenty, so if you're going you should refer to Travel Gay Asia, as well as an excellent blog called Fuel Injected Male that has the most comprehensive writing on HK saunas. Fuelmix will tell you how to get there, sauna etiquette and types of crowd at each venue. Definitely worth a read.

If you read my Part 1 last year, I mentioned picking Big Top (the name is so damn cheesy) as the top of my list, not sure if it's still as hot now. The other premier sauna with the best looking guys was called Hutong, but if you read on Utopia and Fuel Injected Male, you'll know the place is notorious for having a door policy and rejecting clients if they are not deemed hot enough (read: muscular & handsome) by the staff. It really depends on luck, some guys claim they can get in on one day, then rejected on another. With protecting my ego in mind, I decided to give Hutong a miss, because it would be a waste of time to go there only to have to make a detour to somewhere else. Deep down I still feel like I should have tried it, just to know if I was "hot" enough by their standards hahaha..

So on Day 1, I ended up going to ABC Sauna (again the name is like so lame...) simply because it's the only 1 at Tsim Sha Tsui. ABC is run by a group that also owns 3 other saunas in HK, ie Gateway, Action (more on this place later) and Alexander. Apparently its common for saunas to be run by the same management. 

Was really nervous upon finding the place. HK saunas are nestled in tall commercial buildings, you have to ring the bell, get pass the main entrance into the building, take the lift to the right floor then find the actual entrance. My notes said I paid $50HKD to get  in.  

OK I remember it was cooling (was still sweaty), first impression: the place was SMALL!! Everything packed in 1 tiny floor. Stripped naked, clothes into locker, wrapped on towel, explored around. Same routine as here. All saunas in HK are properly equipped, I remember there was like free drinks & snacks, water dispenser, computer stations.. At ABC, there was a nice open shower area but it was very dark LOL, right next to it was the steam room... Adjacent to it was a mini maze, connecting to a tiny video (porn) room that has only 1 couch, and a few private rooms.

There weren't many guys as it was a weekday (Thurs)... probably less than 15 at any one time.. I didn't see anyone that interested me so I just relaxed after a whole afternoon of walking..  What happened next was kind of funny, maybe I was tired / can't think properly LOL... 2 different guys approached me, one was local, about my age; the other was an European tourist (Spanish if I remember correctly), tall, well built, hairy, in his 30s probably... erm, both guys weren't very hot or my type but I didn't want to leave empty handed LOL.... Thing is, both approached me at the same time, it was like tug of war, I was giving confusing mixed signals to both of them, I couldn't decide, so I just grabbed each guy with one hand and pulled them into a private room... I remember both of them were looking at each other rather confused hahahaha.... I just smiled and wasn't sure what was about to happen...

Oh yeah, this means that in my previous post (20 facts), I was wrong about having only 1 threesome experience!! This happened after my first experiment a couple of years ago... OK, I remember both wanted to Top me, the local guy was vers, but because I was too tired to squat over a cock, I basically instructed the Spanish guy to top the local guy haha!! It was funny because both wanted to fuck me, but I was declining and being all pushy... credit to the local guy for willing to take this one  hahahaha... So I played the role of porn director / assisting officer, I got fingered and the 3 of us sucked and groped around... I forgot who I cummed on (probably poor local guy), but Spanish guy definitely came on local guy's abdomen, I remember because his cum was like super watery, it wasn't even creamy white or thick, I actually thought he was peeing because it came out like a stream haha!! 

The 3 of us proceeded to shower, ohhh I remember Spanish guy left us quickly and caught up with his friends that were also there. I was chatting with local guy as we cleaned up, asked about HK gay culture, etc... We even left the sauna together, and he escorted me to the nearby MTR train station... Yeah, so that was a nice way to close out Day 1 of my HK adventure! ;)

More to come,
XOXO

20 "gaylasexshipz" facts

I'm sporting, and a bitch, so here to take on Tuls' public tag... Besides, this should be a cake-walk considering the nasty stuff I've been doing... So here are 20 'gaylasexshipz' facts you may or may not already know about me:

1. Purest of bottoms. Never fucked anyone in my life. Not sure I want to.

2. No real ex-es. Never been in a proper relationship. I'm either too picky or fear of commitment

3. Lost my virginity at 20 in a public toilet to a guy I met online (those days, dating sites were everything). Just oral, I blogged about it (first few posts). Wish I could say it was special or lovely, but it was down right nasty, and in retrospect I felt like a young noob getting molested by a pervert

4. My first anal experience..... was to a stranger at then popular sauna Studio 89. Best part is, I don't even remember how he looks like or his name.... I only remembered he came inside me very quickly (into a condom). It barely hurt because his dick was small and it was over before I knew it LOL

5. After my first sexual encounter (no. 3), it was like a sexual awakening... I instantly WANTED more and more and more....

6. I first discovered there was such a thing called 'gay saunas' through Pluboy, who blogged about Studio 89 when it opened (I was innocent bambi back then). My gay lifestyle would change forever!!

7. You may think saunas are sick, but the truth is these places are usually nicely designed and decorated. Yes it's about the sex, but I also find comfort in knowing that, when I go there, I can be myself and I'm surrounded by like-minded (not to mention, hot) people, coz we all know how lonely it can feel when you're gay and just coming to terms with yourself

8. I always take long showers (good scrubbing) after sex, possibly due to the guilt and partially feeling disgusted with myself, and also fear of picking up some disease

9. I joined the gym on my 21st birthday because I wanted to bulk up a little, and I actually NEVER had sex with anyone in gyms before (no opportunity), but I have seen encounters before in CF

10. I sometimes jerk off in gym showers / public toilets and deliberately wanting to leave some evidence behind.... But right after I cum, I always feel this guilt, and I end up washing it away LOL

11. I don't like bringing guys home for sex (even when no one is around). It only happened 1 time, when a guy living nearby came over.... I gave him a bj in the living room, he came all over the couch. Thank goodness it was leather (easy to clean LOL). I would never have a casual hookup in my bedroom. It's too sacred.

12. Saunas are my preferred spot for hookups, otherwise it's public places.... I don't like going to a stranger's home, because I have this fear that I would get abducted, tortured, raped then killed hahaha

13. Always wanted to have hookups with someone in HOTELS, don't know why I just find it sexy... A couple of opportunities have come (most of them were groupies), but I always missed out because of timing... 

14. Only been in 1 threesome ever, and it was really awkward.. because there was only 1 top, I knew both of them, but the dynamic wasn't right.... I think no one ended up cumming.... So pick your partners carefully boys!

15. Best sex I ever had, was this half Thai guy who is from here (Chen Xing also knows him haha)... Not only does he have a nice long & thick dick, he has the best technique (almost zero pain). Pure pleasure. I hooked up with him a few times. It stopped because I later found out he had a bf and I didn't wanted to be a relationship wrecker. I sometimes still think about contacting him.

16. The closest I have been to a relationship was with a guy called Joe (not the famous Joe from gym). This Joe and I had something like puppy love, we would have nice long chats and MSN video calls haha... It didn't work out because he was from a religious family and he said he was going to marry a woman eventually.... Also, the sex didn't work out, because he has the fattest cock I've even seen... My butt hole just won't accommodate it.. It's not even rod shaped, more like potato...

17. Turn ons: Moderate body hair, typical cock that is rod-like and forward facing (not curvey or pointing upwards or downwards), I like them hard and long, hairy legs, big biceps, rubbing the balls (my sensitive spot LOL), guys that cum big loads, getting rimmed (not all Tops are into it though)

18. Fetishes: Tight underwear, neon or bright coloured underwear/swimwear, smelling guys' underwear after they have been worn all day, doing it in public places

19. Had sex with men from all sorts of nationalities / races and eager to add more haha... The most exotic or interesting ones were Japanese (at local sauna), Australian (my first Caucasian through Jack'd when I was in Brisbane), and Colombian (this guy I met at a sauna in Hong Kong).

20. Never ever had bareback sex, and I thank all the more senior / experienced people before me that went out of their way to educate the newer generation on the importance of safe sex. Please never ever put yourself in the position of having unprotected sex. Always use a CONDOM.

Hope you enjoyed my 20.
XOXO

Getting Stood Up Midway During Sex

OK I'm not even sure what that means. Utterly confused and frankly my ego is bruised hahaha.

Something ridiculous happened moments ago.... STORY TIME:

I went to the sauna at about 7. Wasn't expecting much, just same old routine. After browsing for a while, I see only one (hot+cute) guy that interests me, totally my type. Lucky for me, hot guy seemed to be interested too (honestly, this doesn't always happen!).

He was either playing hard to get, or just being overly passive or shy to make the first move. That sucks because I usually roll like that, I insist that the Top be the aggressor, or initiator, and 90% of the time, they do. If you want me come get me, simple as that. It's not that hard, just come close and touch my hand or something. A note to all Tops out there: it is a super turn off if you make your potential fuck-hole make the first move.

There was a loooooooong game of cat and mouse. The longest I have ever played. At first I wasn't sure if he was interested, because he always seem to be near where I was going, but he wasn't coming close enough to me. There was some eye contact, and on a couple of occasions he brushed his hand against me when walking by. I wasn't entirely sure whether it was an accident, or some sort of signal. Jeezzz it was too subtle. To test my theory, I walked long distances to different parts of the maze, and true enough, he was always following. At one point, near the private rooms we were just standing opposite each other. I was waiting and waiting, like seriously, thinking 'Where the heck are your balls? Approach me already you ass'... Then he walked to a dark, isolated corner, I guess expecting me to go there, but there was someone else watching so I didn't move..... After a while, he walked out of the maze!! I was like, WTF!?!?!

Feeling like I've wasted so much time, I just stood where I was dumbfounded LOL. Moments later, he came back.... standing at the same spot where he was before. This time, I made a move to a corner, right outside a private room.. he followed and stood very near me. Our hands touched. Finally things made sense. It was like MIND games.... neither of us wanted to give in and make the first move, maybe because that's a sign of submission or weakness. But at that point I was so frustrated, I just wanted his dick in my mouth and butt, I didn't care if I had to admit I wanted him.

It was good to know he was a man, and some things are worth the wait. He led me into the room and we started working. As if his hot, young, very straight, macho look and nice arms (I like grabbing big biceps LOL) wasn't enough, he swung out a BIG tool, it was so long and thick, I'm not even bragging... just felt so lucky tonight. It sounds too good to be true, I know. Haven't had such a hot guy since....... forever.

I forgot to mention that he seemed to be ill. During our cat and mouse games, I saw occasional coughing and sniffling... But he was so hot, I still wanted to have sex with him haha.. And he was wearing a chain around his neck, so rad!! Naturally, he wasn't in the mood for anal, so I served him some good ol' suckin.. He even asked if I wanted to find someone else because he couldn't fuck me today. We didn't kiss mouth to mouth (in retrospect I'm glad because he was sick), but there was a lot of neck action haha.. Everything seemed to go well, we even cuddled and I had to stop him from making me cum because I didn't want it to end so soon...

Then I proceeded to blow him again, he was enjoying it, then all of a sudden, while his dick was still rock hard, he just stood up quickly, and said 'I'm sorry, I need to go to the toilet', I was like............. what?? like right now?? I knew he wasn't feeling well, so I thought maybe he needed to puke or something... He wrapped up his towel, and I think he said 'See you' or was it 'Bye', I was so confused, does it mean that he will come back in a while? I asked 'So do you wanna meet later?', he muttered something as he opened the door but I didn't catch it. So I followed behind him as we left the maze.

I kept a distance between us, eventually I went to the loo as well to pee. After that, I tried looking for him back in the maze, waited around, then searched around all 3 floors, but he was no where to be seen. Gone like the wind. I felt pissed and also sad because I let such a good and rare catch that I had to work so hard for, get away just like that (hahaha Tuls, sounds like Pokemon analogy hor). If only I followed him closer, or asked for his number. Would he have given it to me?

But then again, why did he leave? Was it because he was unwell? Or was it something I did? Am I really that bad in sex that a guy would run away midway? I honestly don't think so, because this is the first time a guy has walked out like that. His dick was still hard. I really don't understand. Was he in a hurry? Or did he tried to look for me afterwards but we just couldn't find each other?

I hate that I get so emotionally attached to a hot guy I barely know. If the guy was less attractive or someone I wasn't so into, I probably wouldn't even write a blog post about it. Proof that I'm really superficial. I know the first rule in sauna venturing is No Strings Attached. What happens at the sauna should stay in the sauna. I know I know. But DAMNNNNN was he my kind of guy!! Perfect look, perfect body, perfect cock. Too good to be true maybe. On the bright side, at least I can say it happened, and I still have some sort of appeal to be able to attract guys like that. It gives me hope. LOL, can you sense the pathetic self consolation? XD

XOXO
Left high and dry, J-boy

First MP "Clubbing" Experience

So..... Marketplace happened last night haha. Something I can check off my to-do list. So much I wanna talk about, I need to write this down so that I'll remember it in years to come.

Before anything else, I wanna make a shoutout to grand master Tuls for agreeing to be my chaperone for the evening. Just wanna say muacks and thanks very very much hahaha for being so nice OMG, seriously he is like the nicest, most sincere person, totally beyond expectation because he didn't had any obligation to extend this generosity to me. From driving me around, to buying me drinks, he was like the big brother (fuck, he's so tall) bringing his fat, ugly sister to the cool kids party (not that I'm implying I'm anywhere near fat or ugly), so I had the sense that I was totally dragging his mojo down that night. Long story short, I'm glad to have lost my CLUB virginity to him lol.

Lets get back to the party. 

I know I'm about to sound damn kampung, but I was so impressed with the invisible hand stamp thing, like I was worried my mum would see the stamp if it didn't wash off, but hahaha turns out it can only be seen under a blue/UV light. I didn't even remember where it was. Damn awesome lah hahaha!

The entire place is so much smaller than my expectation. Like the dance floor is so tiny, pathetic really. I like the rooftop though, with the Twin Towers gleaming at the backdrop. Crowds start coming from midnight. You see all kinds of people coming in, Caucasians, lalas, hunks, queens, older men but some still quite fit, fag hags that aren't really that pretty, and everything in between. I saw some familiar faces, such as a Body Combat instructor I had a crush on, and I also saw 3 guys that go to my gym, so I was like 'Ahhhhhhhhhh, I knew you were gay!!' haha. Oh, thanks to Tuls, I also got to meet another blogger who is pretty cool ;)

Drinks are overpriced, not that I drink anyway so it was ok. The music got louder and louder, you literally have to shout in people's faces to talk. People smoke. The dancing was rather subdued, maybe everyone was kind of shy or not high enough. Some hunks did take their shirts off haha.

I like to compare the experience to saunas. Really not that different. There's music, it's quite dark, people go there to stand around and cruise, except they are wearing clothes and you can order drinks. The difference is, I find saunas more rewarding, coz there's action in the end. Clubs are so much more pretentious, guys go there and stare around (rather bitchily to be honest) thinking they're so swag and all, dressed to show as well. As a sauna regular you would think I would fit right in at MP, but I felt kind of out of place. Maybe I'm just not well versed with this culture, I don't really see the point in putting up such a show, or maybe I just don't like to socialize as much. Just sex is good enough for me hahahaha!! And I realized I'm not a night person haha, coz I woke up today feeling so tired and shitty even though I didn't take a sip of alcohol.

Writing this, I mean no offense to any regular Club goers out there, I admire your..... enthusiasm and socializing abilities. I would say, it's a nice place to hangout with a bunch of friends, drinking and chatting, maybe some dancing. People tend to stay with their own groups or niches, it's something like strength by numbers, you gain confidence / comfort through each others' presence. I would advise against going alone. It's way too pretentious (again, honestly no offense) that I just wanna roll my eyes and I feel like it's not even that cool, like you're totally not missing out on much if you have never been. I definitely do not foresee meeting my bachelor here. Clubbing is not everyone's cup of tea, but I wouldn't say no to going again, just to hang out and observe this culture.   

Gotta Have It: Varsity Jacket

It's something that I've been hunting for lately, and still haven't found a decent but relatively cheap one yet haha!

Not sure if it's still in trend (I always seem to be a little behind with trends lol), but one day I just randomly thought of getting one before my big holiday coming up in October! The Autumn-ish weather is gonna be about 14 - 17 degress, so a jacket over maybe a thicker inner shirt should be sufficient to keep me warm :)

And rather than the usual jacket/sweater/hoodie thing (I have 2 black ones from Uniqlo which I love coz its super comfy and I like to sniff the sleeves when it has that nice fabric-y smell mixed with your own scent haha), I feel I might need to raise the style stakes for where I'm going :P

OK maybe you think a varsity jacket isn't a stylish statement, but it's certainly more interesting than the plain ones. 3 words come to mind when I think of / see a Varsity jacket:

1. SWAG (pronounced with hand gesture and over-the-top emphasis on the G: Swagggggggg)

2. Young
3. Fraternity

Also it makes me want to break instantly into a rap or pull out some crazy hip hop dance move. So stereotypical American right!! OK I'm such a pretender hahaha, we all know I'm neither stylish nor a rapper. Still, you can't blame a boy for trying.

I've been researching online at sites like Zalora and also seeing physical ones at F.O.S. etc, I realized on first impression they all look the same, but upon closer inspection you really see the difference in detail (collar, buttons etc) between the brands. Another major pain is colour selection!!! So hard to decide hahahaha.... Generally it's just 2 contrasting colours, some are just plain shitty combos and I know they would look awful on me.. Even after eliminating the nasty ones, there are still sooo many good ones to choose from. Browsing on Zalora gave me a headache haha...

Anyone here owns one? Maybe you can tell me where to get it or what colour to go for ;)

XOXO
So-not-Swaggg J-boy

The Result

Thanks everyone for your well wishes! I'm glad I mustered up the courage to go through with it..

Before I go on about the experience, I will just come out and say I'm fine (read: Negative)!!! Relieved is the only word I can think of... Not even going to celebrate or boast, really just thankful that after all I've done over the years, I'm still given the all clear. Testament that sticking to my 3 golden rules every single time I have sex has proven effective. I remember blogging about my golden rules in detail before, it goes something like:

1. No condom = no fuck
2. Don't swallow cum / Don't get cum in your mouth (esp casual hookups)
3. Anything that's been inside the ass doesn't go into the mouth

A mantra I repeat in my head before I go out to play. Rule 3 is really just a hygiene thing... which is why I say oral sex always precedes anal sex. OK, so I'm rigid & traditional when it comes to sex.

Anyway, I urge all of you reading this, if you are sexually active, have any kind of doubts or just worried about something stupid you've done in the past that may compromise your well being, please just go get tested. It gives you peace of mind. In the event that the result is undesirable, well..... it's better to find out sooner right, so you can start seeking treatment and controlling it.... it's not like if you don't know the result, then it won't be inside your body.... In this case, ignorance is not bliss. Fact is, if it's there it's there. Getting a HIV test just sheds light on what you should do next.

Yes the whole experience is daunting and the first time is shitty as hell. But I'm glad I did it. It's worth it. You're worth it. I went to the PT Foundation in KL near PWTC. Check out their website for all the info you need, eg. testing process, appointment slots.    
http://ptfmalaysia.org/v2/hiv-sti-info/make-an-appointment/

I learned that the PT foundation does amazing things for so many groups. They are accepting of everyone and not judgmental. The test is done at their health care center on the 2nd floor. It is recommended to call in advance to make an appointment. You walk in, the receptionist greets you and hands you a number. If it's your first time, you will be called in by a counselor to a room to brief you on the process and fee. The whole package costs only RM40, they will also ask if you would like to sponsor someone else who can't afford it. After all, the PT foundation caters to many groups, some which are underprivileged and may not be able to afford the test. Support if you are able.

You will then be asked to fill in a questionnaire, which really is just a survey to see how well people understand HIV and AIDS, like how it's transmitted, etc. Great way to bust some myths because the 2nd counselor who does the HIV test will go through it with you later. Oh, I should also mention that throughout the whole thing, you can remain completely anonymous. They don't ask for name or identification.

When you get called into a private room, the 2nd counselor will explain the process and provide necessary info. They do a great job explaining the whole 3 month window period thing, and how it usually takes about 1.5 months from time of exposure for the virus to be in detectable amounts.

You can ask him any questions and he will answer them without judging. He explains how the test kit works, basically they prick your finger, get some blood and load it into the test kit's cell. After 15 minutes, there are 3 possible results. The first (very unlikely), is that the result section shows nothing (no stripes), which means the test kit is faulty and you need to repeat the test with a new kit. Very unlikely, but sometimes manufacturing defects occur. The second possibility, is that one single stripe appears on the control section. This indicates that the kit is working, and because there is only 1 single stripe, it means your result is HIV Negative. The third possibility, is you have 2 stripes appearing on the results, one is the control, and the second one appears because your blood contains the HIV virus, giving the same effect as the positive control. WOW, am I making any sense? I'm really not good at explaining this hahaha....

The counselor will do a better job. After 15 minutes, you get called back into the room to see the result. You only get to see it with your eyes, there will be no written document stating your HIV status, nor do you get to keep the test kit as evidence. After all, it's meant to be anonymous.  If you want a proper documented result, maybe you need to go elsewhere, like a hospital.

It is recommended that we get tested every 6 months, or if you're really busy, then at least once a year. I hope this post helps anyone who has thought about going for a test!

XOXO
Be brave ;)

HIV Testing OMG :O

Now this is something I've always wanted to do, but never really had the guts to follow through.... till now.

Maybe it's the stigma associated with anyone who has a need to do a test, or just a fear of what the result might be.... I mean, I've always taken necessary precautions, I don't think I have ever had sex in a compromised condition, nor have I been raped or anything.... Still......... I have had more sexual partners in the past couple of years than I can remember or keep count, so that's not really a good sign.... Heck, I don't even remember who was the second last person I had fun with... Most I don't even remember their names or how they look like.

So there's always a possibility of What If the result comes back and it's............ would I really want to know right now? It could change my world forever.

I don't really know how I feel about it. On one hand I really do enjoy sex, it's like a recreation for me... a physical activity that you can engage with another person for mutual pleasure. God it feels damn good to be one with another human. On the other hand, I'm somehow made to feel (thanks to society) that it is wrong to be a whore. Apparently it's not morally acceptable to screw with many / random people. I don't feel too bad about doing it, but then again I think if it's something I wouldn't tell my friends or family, then it probably isn't such a good thing right? This may be hard for some of you to understand or accept, I can't really explain it myself.... There are just urges that can't be controlled, and when relief feels so mind blowingly awesome, how can you resist?

I don't know what made me call to make an appointment for the testing tomorrow. It's not a clinic, I just don't feel comfortable being judged by doctors or nurses. Somewhere else. Still, the idea terrifies me. I don't like talking to other (read: non gay) people about my personal preferences. They try to understand but they will never truly get it. Mixture of so many emotions. My heart is already beating faster than usual as I type this.... But eventually it needs to get done. Time to put this goal to bed once and for all.

Will fill you guys in on the details after the test.

XOXO