In an attempt to NOT be so slutty and frequent the saunas so often, I've decided to seriously consider the possibility of emmm... hanging out with eligible bachelors haha!
Now that I have a smartphone, I've been using those social dating apps. Grindr actually sucks because of how it always fails to load. I find Jack'd the best option so far :)
At first I didn't get many messages, then this week it started coming in one after another.. obviously you have to filter out the creepy ones and the ever so uncreative ones that just start with 'Hi', then the next reply is 'Sex?' or 'Want fun?'. Don't even bother with any intro or small talk =.=
Finally, today I managed to hit it off with 2 guys. I will tell you about them coz I'm so excited!! :P
GUY NO.1
Average looking, kind of young and cute looking, but in his 30s. Stays nearby, he is the guy that is clearly not looking for fun. In banking field, into gaming and comics, a little geeky but doesn't look like one haha. His replies were all long (longest I've seen so far), so that means he is sincere in making friends. Talked about a lot of (non-sex related) stuff. Not really attracted sexually (yet), but I could see something grow from there. We might be going to watch a movie together sometime :)
GUY NO.2
Definitely sexual attraction. When I saw his profile, I was like 'Wow, hot and cute. Definitely my type of date'. Mid 20s, doing masters in engineering. As it turns out, he is quite outgoing. At first when I didn't reply he was like asking 'hey did u get my msg' kind of thing. So impatient haha! But you can tell he is a little obsessive compulsive.
The convo started normal, getting to know each other, then I asked if he was into fun or only looking for something serious... he said fun. Knowing how carried away I can get when horny, the rest of the talk was purely on sex. We even talked about meeting at a hotel. He said he was willing to pay for it if I let him to do anything to me.
Then it got a bit scary.
He was telling me all kinds of stuff he wanted to do. Didn't expect him to be so wild... he said stuff like 'rope' and 'handcuff', 'stuffing ice up my ass', and 'do you like the smell of underwear' haha. When I said yes and can I smell yours?... He said he would stuff my mouth with his underwear when he fucks me.
Then I was like 'I'm scared haha' and 'Is it so that I can't scream for help haha'! Not sure if he was joking. I gotta admit, I'm kind of turned on by that idea, but scared also. But he assured me that 'I won't kill you'. LOL. How convincing =.=
Don't worry. After that the conversation got normal again. He is actually a nice and intelligent guy (on the surface at least). When I asked if he was into being something more than a fuck buddy, I suggested to go on a date to get to know each other, he wasn't really keen. Bummer!
Just when I see something in a guy, he indicates that he's not looking for anything serious.
But we are probably still gonna meet. For food or something. Don't worry, I won't be booking a hotel so soon haha!!
Right now, seems like Guy no.1 is friend material, and Guy no. 2 promises some amazing sex. Will keep you updated ;)
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ReplyDeleteGuy2 sounds hot :3
ReplyDeleteI already know how this would end for me.
I would go out with both of them. Guy1 would be sweet, things would work perfectly and it would be a good night. Guy2 would be spontaneous and funny and charming and it would be wild and kinda awesome. But it won't go perfectly. Somehow I can't keep my usual cool around him.
But guy2 is convinced he isn't into anything else but dates and fun. And I get a bit down, but that's alright cause guy1 cheers me up. And he's sweet. And caring. And brings me out to nice dinners. And introduces me to his friends. And tells me that he wants 2 kids. And promises me plastic surgery should I go ugly. And he wants to be with me.
"What do you have to lose?"
So I give it a go. And I'm happy. I mean, I'm pretty content everyday. And sometimes it gets a bit boring and monotonous, but hey, love takes effort. Love takes time. I shall do both.
Somehow, I'm still friends with guy2. We still joke, flirt a bit, meet up for drinks. We become kind of like best friends. Guy1 acknowledges his existence and tries to treat him as a friend. Guy2 fucks more guys and goes on a wild rampage of flings.. as if to prove that he's got other people. That he's safe to be around.
One day guy2 disappears and I get all anxious. I feel depressed, empty. Guy1 doesn't help emotionally anymore. Guy1 gets depressed. He constantly tells me he loves me, and longs for me to tell him the same. He needs reassurance that I feel the same way.
Guy2 turns up months later at the local nightclub. I run up to him and slap him and ask him why he disappeared. He hugs me and I am sobbing. He tears up too. He tells me he couldn't stand being around me but not with me. He doesn't want to ruin my relationship. He left for London and he didn't wanna say anything cause he needed to get over me. But he couldn't. And now he's back for break. And he misses me. But he's flying off in two weeks.
Suddenly nothing else matters. Guy1 sees it coming. He tries to stop it. I am sorry. It isn't enough.
Two weeks of bliss pass. Kisses and dates and long talks and Pavlovas and Tiramisus at Alexis. Letters and shirts and kisses and Whisky. Goodbye happens.
I've lost both guys.
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Derive your own morals from this story. LOL. My imagination went on a rampage. SIAO
Oh wow Kayson! Sounds like a true story to me.. Did some of this stuff really happen to you?
ReplyDeleteHonestly I can relate to and foresee some of it happening with this 2 guys haha, it's like you read my mind.
But the nightclub, slapping and London part.. not so much hahaha :P
:P idk. Hehe. I think it's pretty typical though!
Deleteunderstand both parties first before going into conclusion lo :)!
ReplyDeleteagreed :)
Deleteeventhough i want to go for the first one , the second one sound sooo kinky . everyone has a wild side , and i would so do guy 2 also .I am so jealous of u :O
ReplyDeleteanyway , thank you for the help u gave thru the mails :)
No need to be jealous, I just met these guys so there's really nothing substantial yet.
DeleteBesides, I think you have something good going on with your significant other :)
No more international buffet ?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, you should really get to know Guy No. 1 more.
Glad to here the updates.
:)
why are u so fucked up abt INTERNATIONAL BUFFET ? arent just one type of dish enuf ? douchebag
DeleteZhenyu27, actually may I know why does it concern you so much what other bloggers do in their lives?
DeleteYou seem so worked up about something that you really don't need to care about.
You are only into Chinese, you have already announced that, and WE ARE ALL aware of that now. I respect you for your choice. And you should respect other bloggers for whatever they want to do.
Initially I thought you just wanted to make some fuss about my post. But it's been long enough already, I think everyone is ready to move on, so can you please just let it go?
If you want to set a good example and respect for the Chinese community, and for yourself, please be a gentlemen.
Thank you!
zhenyu,i dare you to eat only white rice with the same gravy for 5 years,you can?sure not satisfied.hehehe
Deletesame with relationship,cannot have sex only,need to do other things also to improve it.
well, i can =3, no offense, jz wanna state tat here XD
Deletehahahaha
Deleteis the 'scary weird stuff' referring to those two guys or to the fact that u are trying to find potential candidate to end ur bachelorship?? hahahha =P
ReplyDeleteErmmm referring to the 2 guys haha.
DeleteBut I actually feel a bit uncomfortable going out on dates also.. It's complicated. My mind tends to reject guys who fall for me romantically. The minute a guy starts to show affection towards me, I just feel like bolting away >.<
are the 2 guys chinese ? if their not , then i will NOT . but looking at ur shit dick , perhaps u will go for all the non chinese as well
ReplyDeleteyes, I know you only like Chinese haha :P
Deletehmm, it really boils down to what you personally want. no.1 is definitely the steady type, and type 2 is just sex and all. But it can be different to how the other partner work his ways around, who knows you might be able to change both of them to ways you wish they do. So choose wisely, and for whichever guy you get involved with, just prepare to devote and make some commitment
ReplyDeletei don't plan to commit to either one so soon.. I think right now I will just do both, and see how it all turns out haha :P
DeleteHappy for you. Just be wise before making any decisions. Good luck. Good Luck.
ReplyDeletethank you :)
Deletehappy for you but worried at the same time especially on guy no 2,but perhaps guy no 1 have his wild side also....
ReplyDeleteO.o
ReplyDeleteAtleast Guy 2 is open about his intentions. Some people aren't.
Guy 1 seems nice. But then again, do we ever go for the nice guys
guy 1=> nice, stable ===> friendzone
ReplyDeleteguy 2=> sexual, wild ===> attraction
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