Lately bloggers and friends seem to be breaking up and forming new relations more frequently than usual... quite quickly I might add. This just enhances my skepticism on love and relationships today.
Forgive me for saying this, but I think some people get into relationships because they need it and not because they truly want it. Some people just can't bare to be single, they think it's such a horrible situation to be in. They need the affection and attention of someone, or they need someone to focus on to give their attention to. To me that's just pathetic. Stand up for yourself bitch and celebrate being independent for a change. When you're single, you don't need to feel like something is lacking or you must search for someone. Seriously.
I'm not saying that we should be loners and die alone... if you meet someone really special then hell yeah by all means take a chance. Get to know him. I hope you guys understand what I'm trying to convey. I just find it really frustrating from what I observe in society (including str8 people), a lot of people are taking relationships so lightly, they meet someone and after a while they say they're an item... and before you know it it's over and then within the shortest amount of time they find someone else again. I just wanna slap them.
These people give love a bad name. If you don't really love someone, don't commit to him in the first place. I beg you, please don't get into relationships if you don't visualize/see yourself having a true/long future with that person. It could take months or years to know if he's the right fit.. so be it. And once you're together with someone, don't let it go that easily when things get tough. Fight for it for god's sake! I mean if that person means anything to you, you gotta hold on to that love.
I really admire my parents because they were each others first, and their marriage has been together for over 30 years. I have seen for myself that at times things weren't so pretty and there have been fights/arguments/accusations over the years, but you know what.. in the end they always make up because they get the bigger picture of holding on to the institution of love, and setting an example for us kids! I truly believe that my parents still love each other till today. I can see it in their eyes when they interact :)
SO, the CONCLUSION for this post:
1. IT'S OK TO BE SINGLE! DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU NEED SOMEONE TO BE COMPLETE.
I'M SINGLE AND LOVING IT!!!
2. IF YOU'RE EVER LUCKY ENOUGH TO MEET SOMEONE SPECIAL (WHICH MAY TAKE A LONG TIME FOR YOU TO REALIZE IF HE IS), THEN PLEASE HOLD ON TO HIM!
I just wrote a goddamn essay at this hour. You guys better read and comment OK hahahaha :P
Thank you in advance (i'm such a super bitch today)
BITCH YEA!!
ReplyDeleteTotally agree even though i might be the few bloggers you are talking about.. lol
*pats back*
ReplyDeletei hope i am not one of the bloggers you have in mind -__- i have the same perception too.
i wonder if i'm the one you're talking about....=.=
ReplyDeleteoh lol, it's one nice essay ~~ Totally agree with it :P
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. Some people just can't stand being single. I mean, its so awesome to be single. You get all the time in the world just for yourself. And don't have to think about anyone else. I'm not saying that being in a relationship is a bad thing. But it should be for all the right reasons. And not just coz you want to be in a relationship just for the sake of it.
ReplyDeleteBlame the bitchiness on the EXAMS! I've been super bitchy to some people for over a month now. xD
P.S. If it makes you feel any better, the first thing I did this morning before going for my exam was read this post!
Sigh, then I am not supposed to read further than the third paragraph as I am still stuck at that stage...
ReplyDelete:(
you slut!!! lol
ReplyDeletethankssss for commenting fellow bitches, I mean bloggers hehe :D
ReplyDelete@CK, Vincent & Ash: Haha don't worry I didn't have anyone particular in mind when I wrote this. Just had a sudden urge to express my opinion & frustrations on relationships and people in general.. Like the title of the post says... I'm just wired differently than most people..
And Vincent, I think what you have with Jason is so so sweet. In a way it gives me hope to know of real life PLU couples in our community, not just the ones on TV :P
@Sky: THANK YOU!! ;)
@Aiden: I know right!! From reading your comment I know you get me, we are totally on the same page! And yes the exams are making me kind of cranky and mean :P
And it's super awesome that you took the time to read this on an exam day!! XOXO
@CX: Awwww please don't go :(
That's the whole point of me writing this post.. I really think we should be all be happy while still being single!! Honestly I've never been so at peace with myself before. When you're single, you get to focus on working on improving yourself in anyway you see fit, you can spend time doing things you've always wanted to do like hobbies or learning a new skill. So many ways for us to fill up our time and to feel good about ourselves dear!! :)
I've already come to accept the fact that I may never find that someone I'm meant to be with, so I'm learning and accepting to enjoy life on my own! It's so much less complicated that way..
@tuls: hahahaha I can't help myself sometimes.. I have such a big mouth and if I feel strongly about something I gotta let it out, otherwise my head will explode!! muacks you :P
I think you contradict yourself on this relationship topic. To quote you from your profile side column... "Love is something I struggle with, I say I can live without it, but deep down I know I really want it."
ReplyDeleteI believe deep down, you want it but since you have not found your Mr. Right yet, you're just letting yourself enjoying your single-hood now.
i love to have sex !and tuls is hawt!
ReplyDelete@Calvin: Haha Calvin it is true that deep down I know I probably want love, but I just can't stand to see the people around me jumping into relationships.. and then breaking up like it's nothing. Not dissing everyone, just those who can't stay single for long, or the ones who get into relationships for skewed reasons.
ReplyDeleteI've been single for a long time now, and I certainly don't feel desperate to find someone. Yes it is true that I hope to meet that someone special someday... but I'm in no rush because I truly enjoy the single life right now :)
And even if I don't meet someone in this lifetime, I'm not going to weep! So no contradictions actually :)
@ooi: lol I see you like to drop random comments everywhere. It is quite amusing at times. And yeah tuls is hot :P
Not really an essay la. Not berjela-jela enough. Hehe. Yes, there are many who can't stay single and even still date or have sex with their exes like nothing had changed.
ReplyDeleteboth of you, you dont even know me how to judge i hot or not leh?!?!
ReplyDelete@William: I agree, but I'm also guilty of getting physical with an ex. But that's purely physical, I swear there's no feelings lingering! :P
ReplyDelete@tuls: hehehe I know how you look like! I have spied on your fb profile before long ago... and also on some other site I think ;)